The Hard Truth About ‘Just One Less’


Why cutting back keeps you stuck…

When it comes to alcohol, one of the most common pieces of advice is: “Just cut back.”

  • If you’re drinking five drinks, make it four.

  • If you’re drinking four nights a week, make it three.

On the surface, it sounds smart. Small steps, right? But here’s what neuroscience tells us: cutting back isn’t actually a solution.

Alcohol changes the brain’s dopamine system. Every drink tips your pain-pleasure balance, spiking reward and then crashing into stress. Even one glass of wine keeps your nervous system dysregulated. Add in elevated cortisol, reduced REM sleep, and the slow erosion of gray matter, and suddenly moderation doesn’t look so harmless.

In fact, the research is clear:

  • Even 1–2 drinks can cut REM sleep by 20%.

  • Moderate drinking shrinks brain volume, aging the brain by 2–3 years.

  • A massive Lancet study found: “The safest level of drinking is none.”

That’s why abstinence is the only true reset.

And yet… I know the word “abstinence” can be tricky. It feels old-fashioned, clinical, or even moralistic. When you hear it, you might brace yourself, or feel judged. I want to invite a different approach—curiosity.

What if abstinence isn’t about “never” or “loss”?
What if it’s simply the space your brain and body need to heal, so you can finally see alcohol for what it is: something that gets in the way in every possible way.

In this week’s podcast, I break down the science, the stats, and the truth about cutting back. I also share how to reframe abstinence—not as a life sentence, but as an experiment in freedom.

✨ Imagine what you might discover when your brain isn’t working overtime to process even “just one glass.”
✨ Imagine the energy, sleep, and clarity that’s waiting for you.

Moderation keeps us stuck. Abstinence sets us free.

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