Ep. 75: How to Coparent the Modern Way with Scott Pinyard

 

Over 40% of couples get divorced. For many who divorce, there can be complicated feelings of guilt and sorrow, regret and anger. For couples with children, these feelings and emotions can be even more complicated. It makes sense that one might need support navigating this emotional minefield.

Enter Scott Pinyard, coach, father and successful coparent. You might remember Scott from our podcast together about This Naked Mind and alcohol. (Episode 9 The Sober Edge)   Today, we talk about how to use similar tools to navigate coparenting. Scott has created Modern Coparent as a way to help individuals move from discord and anger to peace. And, the beautiful part is that it only takes ONE parent to start to succeed in this process. Scott shares his own journey from a hostile and anxious relationship with his coparent, to one of respect and human connection. One of the keys, according to Scott, is to end the ‘transactional’ relationship and move to a ‘human focused’ relationship. The benefits of creating this inner peace are plentiful; less anxiety; less reactive behavior; more open communication; and, perhaps most importantly, the benefit to our children of modeling a healthy way to grow after divorce.

Scott and I talk about:

  • Becoming friends with your coparent
  • Using our thoughts, emotions and actions as a guide
  • Which comes first – working on our relationship with our coparent or working on our relationship with alcohol?
  • Why he doesn’t use the word ‘ex’
  • Never forget your kids are watching you
  • It’s never to late to work on a healthy relationship with your coparent
  • The cost of leaving vs. the cost of staying in the marriage
  • What your kids want most

Scott has created a group offering to help those of you who are moving into, through or beyond divorce understand how to heal and how to create the live you deserve. He also serves clients 1:1 around coparent and/or alcohol use. 

Connect with Scott at www.modern-coparent.com for more information. And, keep an eye out for his new community where you can connect with parents who are looking to drop the stereotypical approach to bad-mouthing the other parent and move into peace and harmony.

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