Ep. 76: Let’s Talk About Sex! with Sarah Olsen

Yes – we really do talk about sex and sober sex in this episode. Sarah Olsen is a fellow coach who is willing to open up this conversation about what happens in the bedroom when we stop drinking.

Like all areas of our lives, when we make a change around alcohol, things change. Relationships evolve, priorities shift and many times we also find a shift in how we are showing up sexually. We might have bought into the ‘story’ that alcohol is a ‘sexual lubricant’ that helps us loosen up. Or, we might actually have a partner who expresses “you were more fun when you were drinking”. We might feel completely in our head and find it hard to connect with our body in a way that makes sex feel natural and fulfilling. Sarah helps us explore communication as the number one tool to better sex; how to reframe losing our virginity all over again; and why you should focus on what draws you to your partner vs. what you find sexually attractive.

This conversation touches on many important parts of this subject:

  • What is my partner thinking?
  • What does everyone mean when they say “sober sex is the best sex”, and why doesn’t it feel that way for me?
  • Why sober sex is like losing our virginity all over again
  • The physical affects of alcohol on our bodies and the sex act
  • Why the brain is an important part of intimacy
  • The risks of drunken sex, physically and emotionally
  • How to respond when someone says “you were more fun when you were drinking”.

Founder of Put It Down Lifestyle, Sarah is passionate about helping women realize the power within themselves to discover and believe in their true worth.
Sarah has always been an advocate of health and wellness and believes that being truly “fit” is much more than our nutrition and activity level. She approaches health with a holistic approach by incorporating stimulation for the mind, body, and soul. In 2018 Sarah started training to become a Reiki Practitioner. She has achieved licenses at the Reiki Level I, Level II, and Reiki Master Teacher levels. Sarah has her AAFA Group Fitness certification and is a kickboxing coach at local gyms. In 2021 she received her life coaching certification from the Academy of Modern Applied Psychology. Sarah is a mom to a teenage girl and wife to her soulmate whom she found later in life.

You can connect with Sarah at Put It Down Lifestyle and she is offering a special discount to my podcast listeners for 20% off with coupon code: thesoberedge20

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