Ep 98: Self Compassion or Tough Love?

This solo episode addresses the tricky part of self-compassion and tough love. We know beating ourselves up doesn’t work but can we rely too much on self-compassion?

Highlights include:

How to do know if the Pause is moving you forward

Are you drinking less over time?
Are you having new thoughts about drinking?
Are you getting excited about taking a break?

Where self-compassion can lead to self-sabotage
Building in accountability
How to use tough love without breaking connection

If you feel stuck in your journey to freedom, I invite you to consider how to re-evalue your tools as you gain new awareness. There is never just ‘one way’ to get sober!

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